Building Marital Friendship
Marital Friendship is key to a healthy and successful relationship. Nina provides a few tips below to help you find your happy place.
Look for the good. Put effort into focusing on the positive aspects of your relationship and express gratitude and appreciation towards your partner, even for small things. This will build goodwill and make it easier to deal with problems in the future.
It's crucial to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. Never assume that they know what you're thinking or feeling. Listen to them, too, and create a safe space to share concerns and work towards solutions together.
Both parties should put effort into maintaining a relationship. Small gestures can show love and appreciation, such as planning a special date or doing something thoughtful for your partner.
Be patient and kind with your partner, work together to overcome challenges, and you will have a stronger and more fulfilling relationship.
Ask open-ended questions. Recognize that your partner is changing and evolving, as you are. Stay curious about who your partner is now and is becoming. Keep asking questions about hopes, dreams, wishes, and longings. Partners who feel known by each other have a stronger friendship.
Turn towards each other. Partners should show up for each other in meaningful ways, such as emptying the dishwasher or planning a date. Miscommunication is normal, but partners who turn towards each other outside of conflict can make and receive repair attempts more easily.
Turning towards our partners implies investing in the relationship and showing that we care. This act can create a positive cycle of intimacy and connection. Responding to our partner's attention can make them feel heard and seen, which ultimately leads to a more secure relationship and willingness to make bids themselves.
Before giving your partner attention, take a moment to assess if there's anything hindering you from fully engaging with them. Then approach them with a kind and open heart to strengthen your relationship.
